Nothing, and I mean nothing, is more irritating to a couple experiencing infertility than the obligatory April Fool’s joke that someone is pregnant(See article featuring Oshun Fertility President, Helen Stephens Except, of course, when at the family dinner during the holidays, your mother looks at you and says…”So when am I going to be a Grandmother?”

This question and others very similar, will be asked in thousands of homes this holiday season and the answers are basically the same. “In due time”, “We’re working on it”, and the famous quickie answer, “Soon.” These questions are tough and really place people in vulnerable positions. Its time our society starts acknowledging that Infertility is a disease. No, it won’t leave you with long hospital stints, and its not fatal like other diseases, but that doesn’t dismiss its devastating effects. What most people don’t witness are the nights of tears and depression, the constant visits to the doctor, only to hear the inevitable bad news of a failed pregnancy,  the numerous injections and in many cases, the irreparable damage to their marriage and relationships. The pain, the agony, the tears, and the feelings of hopelessness. All precipitously fall like a great storm and with no  medicine to make you feel better. Just as we should never ask someone we love, suffering with Alzheimer’s, when are they going to start remembering things again. We should never asked someone we care about, “When are you going to have a baby?” Especially if we’re not sure there may be associated medical reasons.

As much as many of us look forward to the holiday season, there are quite a few who loathe this time of year, so let’s really show some holiday cheer and stay away from the topic completely, unless that person brings it up. In the event that it does come up, simply show empathy and let them know that you will be there for them in any way they need you. You may find that’s the best gift you can give this holiday season.

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